I was talking about that too. I’m saying that the person you were replying to wasn’t wrong. The idea of looking at obsession as ‘sexy’ is dangerous. Especially obsession over people. Perhaps you can handle it but not everyone can. They didn’t attack you personally or anything, and they didn’t tell you what you should and shouldn’t think. They said their opinion (that obsession isn’t sexy) just like you did. Just because someone doesn’t put ‘in my opinion’ or before every sentence it doesn’t mean they’re not expressing an opinion.
And the rest I mentioned because I have been reading through the thread and I’ve seen you continuously referencing your own relationship, which as you’ve repeated many times is consensual and doesn’t fit into the argument against or for ‘abuse’.