Nowadays, it is pretty hard to know what offends people and what doesn’t because the lines keep changing all the time in the modern world because there are so many different definitions of what offends different groups of people and because of the media/campaigns. Yeah, you can use your common sense to know and realise what offends certain groups of people and you know the logic behind why it’s unacceptible. You respect that, but some people get too easily offended (no offense ) and that makes it harder to know who you will offend and when you offend them. So in my eyes, it’s better to stay as ambiguous as you can, especially online. That way you aren’t misleading people and you’re also not seen as ‘taking sides’ and being ‘biased toward a certain group’ (if that makes sense to you?).
I want people to enjoy my writing as best as they can and not turn into a political agenda/dilute the messages of my story based on how I present myself (i.e. my pen name). I think that’s pretty petty. The less bias there is, the more people can just read the story and enjoy it as it is. I want to entertain people, but give them a message. I want that message to stay as pure as possible. You know? (Lol, that was longer than I intended it to be but those are my thoughts on the situation).
@Zussage Wait, hold up? From what I have read, you have married a man from another culture and you don’t want to use his surname as your pen name? If you’re married to a man from another culture and that has become your legal surname, then that’s your legal surname (please correct me if I am wrong).
In my opinion, you can use the surname, because it is your legal surname. I understand that you are not from his culture and you don’t want to falsely mislead people, which is fine, but if you have a new surname you can use it as your pen name because that name is a part of you now. I know you aren’t going to mislead people and you aren’t intending to do so, but I do also get that you don’t want people to be like “but you’re X and you’re using X surname from X ethnicity”…
… But if you love the man and you’re married, then I think that people should respect that fact too. If you understand what I mean? If I married someone and they took my surname and used it, I would be flattered :3