@GreekMyth @Anniewillams22 Here’s the story
There is a guy that I knew since elementary and I started to like in fifth grade. I’m in high school now. Let’s call him J. We’ve always been close. Seventh grade, he was joking around with some friends and asked me out, but I didn’t take him serious because J and our friends were not serious and they were laughing about the dumbest thing ever. I turned him down, because one I wasn’t allowed to date and two, I didn’t know if he actually liked me. (I thought this because no one ever liked me before.) Not too long after, he got a girlfriend so I though “Oh,he must not have actually liked me.”
Going to eighth grade, we were still friends and goofed around. I think I forgot what happened then. I started to have a crush on this boy who moved from another town. I just so happened to be in the office when I met him and his father. Let’s call him M. I liked him for about 5 months. An average amount of time to have a crush on someone. Thing is, that crush was so unhealthy. I don’t like him now, and I may see him at the high school, but I don’t pay attention to him. In the end, he played with me and I gave up on him. We were suppose to “try to be friends,” but that didn’t turn out, but I honestly don’t care. J comforted me and he told me it doesn’t matter if M doesn’t think I’m pretty or nice, because he does and that’s where we confessed our feelings, but I thought it was weird for him to be so open and tell me he likes me when he is in a relationship. I even met his girlfriend a couple times in seventh.
Anyways, we still hung out and we were still friends. He was actually one of my best friends. We grew closer, and he may have tried to be sweet and flirty, but I was uncomfortable with it since he was in a relationship so I had to remind him. My friend and I were planning to prank him. I didn’t have my phone, but she did. We went and texted that I loved him and all that, and he even said I love you back which is a big shocker. He shouldn’t have said that since he is in a relationship. Anyways, a while later in high school, we have no classes together, so we barely see each other. I started losing faith and I even thought about it after confessing my love to him. I wrote him a letter too. Yet, he was still in the same relationship and J said that if anything ever happens with his relationship with his girlfriend, he’ll date me. Red flag there. A guy shouldn’t say that. That’s not being loyal to your girlfriend. Two, thinking about it alone, I’m basically just his side chick or back up relationship. I guess his second choice. Which is what happened with M.
Anyways, knowing this, and all that happened, I don’t know what to do. I tried clearing things up, but I will feel guilty saying certain things because he spent money on me, and I’d feel bad about that. I don’t know. Should I wait, but continue being confused and affecting my health or should I move on, but keep our friendship?