They get these ideas about soulmates from romance novels! haha!!!
By the way, @KAJordan2, that is a horrible story, and I’ve seen and experienced the same delusional thinking around love that truly amounts to no more than selfishness.
I think we too often mistake lust as love, and that gut-reaction of attraction for ‘soul-mate’ when really it’s just unconsciously recognizing the person fits a pattern you’re familiar with (like ego-id-animus stuff if you want to put it that way), and it’s often really unhealthy, especially if you come from an unhealthy family of origin like me. Like you meet someone and they instantly feel familiar and attractive, but unbeknownst to you, you’re completely subconsciously attracted to them because they remind you of your father (or mother) who was abusive / emotionally unavailable / mentally ill / or otherwise dysfunctional. And then BAM! It’s “True Love,” when really it’s a trip to hell. haha! That’s been my experience, at least.
So my understanding of ‘true love’ has changed lately, and when I have that instant attraction to a guy, I RUN THE OTHER WAY! haha! And I’m hoping that I can just meet someone and be friends with them and get to know them slowly over time.