What was your first job?


#21

Jeeze… that sucks.

Whoa… do you know why? :scream::thinking:


#22

That’s lovely to hear. :wink: <3

Hahaha, I bet everyone was happy to see a change for once. xD


#23

That is definitely important! And that sucks that they fired them for that… My mom is in the hospitality business, so I’ve seen many people fire you for ridiculous things or even not hire you. My mom’s been discriminated, actually. A lot don’t hire her because of her looks, her age, and her being a mother. And it’s completely bull. -_-

That’s lovely! :slight_smile:


#24

Yeah… that’s why I fear talking on the phone. People can be so rude without a care, and it’s easier when you don’t have to look at them. My sisters have worked in the collection agencies (one with DiTech - a mortgage company - and the other with Discover - the credit card company) and they hated it, only because of all the rude people. :pensive::unamused:

:blush:


#25

Hahaha, I don’t plan on working in fast food… that’s if I was truly desperate. xD I’ve mainly applied to grocery stores, retail stores, and restaurants as a dishwasher.

I honestly wouldn’t mind cleaning stuff, because it’s simple work (hard, but simple) and I already know how to clean. xD

But yeah, that would be something I wouldn’t want to clean up… :rofl::sweat_smile:

Actually, no. I haven’t… how do you go about cognitive therapy?


#26

Whoa! That’s awesome! What do you do? :thinking: :scream:


#27

What happened?

It kind of reminds me of my sister’s recent experience. She was hired for a front desk person at a hotel (a job she knows very well), but ended up throwing her back out because she hasn’t had a standing job in a few years. She worked there for three days and after that, had to quit because she couldn’t handle it (she even had to get a shot in her back because she couldn’t stand up properly). But now, she’s a night auditor, and last night was her first day on the job. xD


#28

:flushed::scream::exploding_head:


#29

Liking talking to people and being able to are two different things. I’m an introvert, and I could stay inside my house for days too if I didn’t have things to do outside. I stay silent most of the time too, but when I speak, I’m not really awkward. You could work on your social anxiety, it won’t go away quickly but it can improve, and being socially anxious for the rest of your life sounds so sad.

Also, don’t go into customer service. I did it once as an introvert and it was the easiest but most stressful job ever, because people bother you with their problem all the time. I never knew being a receptionist, and answering people’s questions when you don’t know the answer could stress me so much.

Agreed! Therapy is expensive but some books can help you too, stuff like “Mind over mood” and others.


#30

Good! Because dude seriously, I’ve never been treated like less of a human - well, except by some nurses on the psych ward I cleaned. They were very arrogant about them being nurses and me just being a cleaning lady. :roll_eyes:

You honestly get used to it. At the end of it all, I was like “Welp, there’s some shit on the floor.” (Luckily I didn’t have to pick up after the patients - which also meant I didn’t have to pick up shit. I just had to clean after the nurses had picked it all up :joy:)

Cognitive therapy is basically “talking therapy.”

Cognitive therapy ( CT ) is a type of psychotherapy developed by American psychiatrist Aaron T. Beck. CT is one of the therapeutic approaches within the larger group of cognitive behavioral therapies (CBT) and was first expounded by Beck in the 1960s. Cognitive therapy is based on the cognitive model, which states that thoughts, feelings and behavior are all connected, and that individuals can move toward overcoming difficulties and meeting their goals by identifying and changing unhelpful or inaccurate thinking, problematic behavior, and distressing emotional responses. This involves the individual working collaboratively with the therapist to develop skills for testing and modifying beliefs, identifying distorted thinking, relating to others in different ways, and changing behaviors.[1] A tailored cognitive case conceptualization is developed by the cognitive therapist as a roadmap to understand the individual’s internal reality, select appropriate interventions and identify areas of distress.

It’s honestly the best form of therapy I’ve ever tried. (I’ve tried music, art, good ol’ regular, medication and therapy with movement and meditation) This was tailored to me and my diagnosis, not to mention, my needs. It wasn’t just “You have this, so now we’re gonna do this rehabilitation that doesn’t even consider you as a person. You’re just a label. Have a good time :slight_smile:


#31

I feel you. I’m almost twenty-one and I get really socially awkward basically one hundred percent of the time. My first job was KFC when I was sixteen. Really, my only two-cents is fake it till you make it, which I am completely aware isn’t actually all that helpful… :sweat_smile: but hopefully you find a good job soon!


#32

I sold the last of my companies in 2009, and at sixty-five, I sailed off over the horizon. I’m still living aboard and cruising nine years later, and after decades of publishing nonfiction, I’ve turned to writing novels.


#33

I started in the regular highschool retail and fast food places, but post-highschool nobody around here will hire anyone without a relative or intimate reference or a specialised certificate in an inane area (There’s year-long course certificates for ‘hairdresser’s assistant’ fer crissakes) It didn’t help that I’ve been in uni most of that time so I can’t do whatever hours they throw at me, and they’d rather hire someone who can.

SO I looked elsewhere. Finished my first degree (Arrangements to make a career out of that went out the window with a war and local stuff is just cataloging and paperwork), and applied to a job as a carer overseas. Got it, but I didn’t end up liking the arrangement (basically you’re stuck over there either working 24/7 or living in hostels while waiting for someone to take you for a new placement. There’s next to no demand for male carers.)

Then I came back to start my masters, but without government support for post-grad education, I couldn’t afford to keep going. Once again, applied for hundreds of what should be entry-level jobs in my home country and couldn’t get squat. Applied for one overseas, and got it. That has opened a lot more doors than anything back home, but I don’t like being overseas and away from my friends. So here I am, stuck in China because leaving the job would be more of a headache than it’s worth just to go back to unemployment again.

BUT the job I have now is available elsewhere - Teaching English - and some places have really good arrangements so that you’re well taken care of. It’s great for savings and balancing time to write. I’d just recommend Japan or South Korea I think would be a bit easier to live in. European countries tend to ask for at least 2 years experience, and South America I think do more working-holiday arrangements than career teaching. I really don’t mind the teaching side of it either. Small children are such goofs.


#34

It is… :rofl::joy:

Hahaha, that’s why I don’t like working for something where it deals with customer complaints… xD My family is in the hospitality business, so I’ve heard of so many horror stories when it comes to complaints. People complain way too much and it’s like they’re not only wasting your time, but their own. Especially if you’re not at fault or your job doesn’t deal with the issue.


#35

Hahahahahaha, and yet they were arrogant. It’s like karma. :joy::rofl:

Wow, that sounds really cool. I may try it down the road. :slight_smile:


#36

Hahaha, thanks. xD And you’re fine. :wink:

Thanks! :slight_smile: I just really want to start saving money for myself, especially have money for Disneyland. xD My family is going at the end of September, and I really want some money for souvenirs. Hahaha.


#37

Oh that is so cool! :open_mouth::grin::smile: What was your company, if you don’t mind me asking?

Now that sounds lovely living! :wink:


#38

Dang… that sounds sucky… :confused:

Ugh, I hate places like that. A lot of “entry-level” jobs here mainly require experience (1-2 years) and it’s kind of sucky. I was going to apply to a retail job as a stocker/merchandise person for JC Penny, but they wanted someone who had 1 year experience and I’m like, “Seriously?” -_-

Back when I was eighteen, living up in Ohio, I wanted to apply to our library, but they wanted you to have experience as well, on top of having a driver’s license and own a car…

Anything else that I see requires certificates, four-year bachelor degree in college, and or experience. :confused:


#39

They tried to get around it by asking me to do it, and then I reminded them it’s their job. They got super sour every time :joy:

It’s been the most effective form of therapy for me. I hope you try it out and find it helpful too :slight_smile:


#40

My first one was a numismatic dealership, which I ran from 1958 to 2009. Among my other early companies was a wine importing and distribution business I established in 1967 when I returned to Canada from NATO postings in France and Germany. I ran these on the side while continuing my career as a military officer. By 1981, they had outgrown my ability to manage them part time, so I resigned my commission and concentrated on them and other entrepreneurial endeavours.